Opal Siren

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Random Questions and Answers


It has been a while since I have done a question and answer post. So here it goes folks!!!

1. How long have you and your husband been married?

5 years in March.

2. Why don’t you have any children yet?

My husband and I have had the “B” discussion many times. Basically it comes down to time and money. We are not ready. Maybe next year or the following.

3. Are you worried that you are getting too old to have children?

Yes and no. I know that the older women get, the higher the risks of having a child. But I really need to do this on my own terms and when my husband and I are ready. It seems very silly to me to have a child for the sake of having one. We are prepared and accepting of the idea of not having any children as well. We are very happy with our lives and have no regrets. If God wants to bless us with children in the future, then it will happen.

4. What does your husband think of your blog? Does he read them?

My husband loves that I blog. It is a creative form of expression for me and it makes me happy. He does read my blog weekly and often suggests that I write about him..HAHAHAH….It is true! He is funny that way ūüôā

5. How do you like being a military spouse thus far?

Being a military spouse has its pros and cons. It is not a lifestyle for everyone. There is a lot of moving around and feeling dislocated. There is also a lot of time being away from family. I have had my share of ups and downs with the process and the lifestyle. I do work full-time in a non-military/government capacity, so there is some escape from the lifestyle. We also live a bit far from the military base, so it does give my husband and I the space we need to cope. It can be stressful to live where you work. Having said that, my husband and I are very honored to live this lifestyle and it is an honor to be married to someone in the U.S. Navy. He truly enjoys his career with the Navy and this is his calling. I support him one hundred percent and he supports me too with all of my crazy ideas. Even though it is a daily challenge to be a military spouse, I feel blessed and happy with our lives.

6. What are you doing tomorrow?

Having lunch with a friend and then watching the SAG Awards. I will be looking forward to all the pretty dresses on the red carpet.

 

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A good old-fashioned diary


The past few weeks have been extremely difficult. I turned 31 without my husband. I am overwhelmed with the amount of information I have to learn at my new job. I am tired of the one hour commute to and from work every single day. I am even tired of my pet, Carrott Top, nagging me to take her out every minute of the day. I think I just about had it, and my husband cannot get home soon enough.

It’s time like these that a good old-fashioned dairy can really help. Blogs are great tool to write about diverse topics for people to relate to, and to also brag about your readership. But a diary is a great way to vent and not have to chew your best friend’s ear off. You also won’t need to worry about what people are going to think when they read what you wrote out of anger. I have written about diaries before, but in this post I want to discuss why they are so meaningful to me.

First, I¬†know it is very old-fashioned and “stone age” like to have a diary. However, it has helped me immensely to get all of my frustrations and not-so proud moments out of my conscience. The simple act of grabbing a pen and just writing out my feelings, has served as a form of therapy for me. It is almost like going to the gym and working out all the stress and pent-up anger you have, but your mind does all the exercising.

Another reason to have a diary are the many choices in stationery that are available. You can buy an old-fashioned diary, buy some fancy paper and make your own, or just write yourself a letter that you can go back to and read. It is important to go back and read past entries to see where you were as a person, how you changed, and what you can do to be a better person.

After all, that is what life is about: How can we be better at listening, understanding, or work at having more patience?? Not one of us is the same as we were yesterday. There is always something in us that is changing, learning, and evolving whether we are aware of it or not. If you don’t believe me, write yourself a note right now. Read the note a year later. You will see that your hand writing, your way of thinking, or even the meaning of the note has changed for you.

Diaries are also a good way to give your hands and your eyes a break from monitors and keyboards. Take a break from technology and the everyday routine. Look at a beautiful piece of stationary, grab a fancy pen, and just let your mind have fun.

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Month Of The Superhumans


It has been a very eventful couple of weeks, to say the least. I suffered a loss in my family and at the same time had to deal with my husband’s departure. At times I felt like I had no more energy left to cope with all of this and then something else would happen. ¬†But some powerful magic must have been in the air to give me the strength and vitality that I needed to move forward.

On the same token, I know the month of May is supposed to be all about our mothers and of course the blossoming of trees. They are part of the superhumans of the world and the ones who give birth to life. However, given all the events that are going on this month and that have occurred to me personally, I feel as though this month can be shared with a few other important people in our lives:

1. Military Spouses whose husbands or wives¬†are currently deployed. This one is for those of us who has their spouse currently deployed or is getting deployed. ¬†Some of these brave souls are also mothers. They have to do it all and be it all while their husbands are serving. Some do not have the time to grieve the separation or loneliness that comes from being a military spouse. They quickly wipe tears, fears, and other obstacles, and continue to move forward day-to-day. I do not know how we do it or how I am going to do it, but we have to. I especially feel that we must have some kind of special power, because we must also deal with family members and people who simply do not understand military life, or the sacrifices it brings. People tend to forget that military spouses serve too. They have to move port to port, station to station, with their husbands¬†or wives. They too get to leave family and friends behind. They leave it all behind while waiting for months and sometimes years for their deployed soldier, marine, sailor, etc…to return home safe and sound. All that and add a couple of children to the mix, and you and I would be driving ourselves to an insane asylum. Yet some of these spouses manage to do it all with much grace and dignity, including the changing of dirty diapers.

2. Graduating students. I know what you are thinking…all the partying and drinking you did in your college days should not earn you a spot in this lovely month of May. However, there are a few of us that have been a nervous wreck trying to finish assignments, term papers and projects, all to get that degree. Oh…how can I forget the late nights of studying and reading, all for the price of one large un-payable tuition bill that comes with a serving of years of repayment. I am also in this category, and again some kind of superpower has to be in us as well. Not only do you need the time and motivation to do it, but you must have¬†the dedication and discipline to finish. Trust me, there were many times I wanted to quit. It is not as easy as attending a fraternity party and drinking a couple of beers.

3. Our stand-in mothers. I was not raised by my mother and there are a few of us out there who, like me, had that special person to thank for their upbringing. These individuals are taking the job of our moms and are unselfishly providing care, love and attention to children who need it. I have to thank my late grandmother for this one. She had to be my grandmother and my mother, and at the same time care for her own family.  Others included in this list are older sisters, aunts, uncles, single dads, step-parents, and all those relatives that are taking on the responsibility of caring for a child in need. It really does takes a superhuman to open your home and your heart to a child that is not your own.

Please feel free to comment and add to the list!

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Anniversary #2…Alone Again!


Today is my anniversary again! If you are scratching your head in confusion, I will be re-posting an earlier post about why this is.

In any case, how lucky am I? I get to have not one but two wedding anniversaries!!! Everyone should do this! Besides, if you forget one anniversary date you can always make it up on the second anniversary date. We normally do not exchange gifts or spend money in either of our anniversaries, and we officially only acknowledge one of them. But we do try to spend some time together on each anniversary date and that is something all couples need. Unfortunately, my husband is away for this one and was also away for the previous one. So there is no guarantee that your spouse will be present for one, both, or neither; especially if they are military ūüė¶

***From Previous Post***

Today is our anniversary!!!

My husband and I are officially married for four years. So in hollywood terms we are married a lifetime LOL.

By officially married, I mean that a justice of the priest peace married us. Oh, and have I ever mentioned that we got married twice!!! Yes, Indeed.

Like many military households, my husband and I had a civil wedding and then opted for the traditional wedding in a church with our families. So we have two anniversaries.

Why do many military men and women have two weddings, you may ask?

Well for many military men and women is a security thing. If the sailor, marine, soldier, etc…. is away, then it gives them the security that their family and significant other is protected while they are serving our country. Most of our military men and women are stationed in other states, and at times other countries, than their extended families. Therefore, knowing that the person they are coming home to, significant other, partner, etc…has access to services and benefits is a big plus. Also, once they come home they can then celebrate with their extended families and maybe even get married again!

So which anniversary do we celebrate?

We tend to celebrate March 14th, our civil ceremony, since it really was the most romantic wedding of the two. I remember getting up that morning and picking up our rings from the mall. We got nicely dressed and went to the justice of the peace. Afterwards, I believe we went to Applebees,¬†but we may have gone to Romano‚Äôs Macaroni Grill or Cheesecake Factory? Don‚Äôt shoot me, but I don‚Äôt remember. All I remember is how happy and complete we both felt. I know it sounds terribly cheesy, but it is the truth. We are still very much in that ‚Äúcompleteness‚ÄĚ honeymoon phase. We cannot wait to be with each other. But, the best thing about our first wedding was that it was a very relaxing, peaceful day, with no drama, no dress fittings, and no constant picture posing that happens in traditional weddings. The only thing I regret is not having at least one picture of that day. We did not want to spoil the other big wedding that was coming up. But at least we have the great memory of what this day meant to each other.

Why do I think my husband is so special?

I feel very blessed to have met my husband. I waited quite while to be this happy. It really was love at first sight. I knew I was going to marry him when I first met him. Something just told me. Within six months of meeting my husband not only were we living together, we were also engaged. Eight months after we met, we were married. We could no longer wait to finally ‚Äúofficially‚ÄĚ be together.

What advice can I give to single people out there?

If I can mention a moral or lesson to this story to any woman/man out there searching for the right partner, I would say do not despair he/she will come when it is time. Once they come, get ready for an awesome roller coaster ride. Also, when the right person comes along you definitely know that they are the right person. I could not understand this either when I was single. I did not get how you just know, but trust me you do. There is a feeling and a hunch like you never experienced before. Not even when you first thought you were in love. So in the meantime think as if you are just not ready yet and try to have as much fun as you can.

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What I already know


We hear repetitive things all the time. That does not mean that we grasp them, pay attention to them, or care to notice. Sometimes we need reinforcement. The best answer, is the answer that we already know but fail to admit we know.

On my previous posts, I spoke about having strange dreams. In one of them, my grandfather appeared and informed me that he wanted to move. I am not sure if it was because in the dream I was being burglarized, or the stress of my life at the time, but he did mention that he wanted to move to another state. He showed me a piece of paper. In that piece of paper he had written two states: Iowa and Virginia. Well I had long guessed that my husband’s next duty station would be Virginia, since there are no ships in Iowa, and this dream confirmed it for me. Plus, Iowa was never on the table as an option. Funny….It is strange that many of my dreams are prophecies for me, or are they? ¬†Maybe these dreams are just repeating what I already know very deep within my soul.

So, yes we are moving to Virginia. The news came to no surprise. However, it was bittersweet to my ears. The first time we moved to VA, I will admit I was not happy there. I was going through a difficult time with my husband being deployed, planning a wedding for our families, working 12-hour shifts, and driving to NJ every weekend. I was also going through a terrible time at my job at the time and was applying for Grad School. This time, I am still not a fan of where we are going, but I do have friends there that have recently moved to the area where we will be stationed. I also have some old friends I made while living there, so I am very hopeful that I will enjoy residing there a bit more this time. I am not planning a wedding or big event, and I can focus on my school work while my husband is deployed. This should definitely be a plus. I have also matured more and have a better understanding on what it takes to be a military spouse.

On the other hand, I already know that this semester is going to be a nightmare. My semester started yesterday, with one computer programming class and two Bioinformatics classes. They are advance, graduate level classes. They all require tons of reading, home work, midterms, and finals. So, not only will I be stressed out with the level of work, but I will also be hyperventilating while thinking about these tests. I am a terrible test taker!!!!

Wish me luck!!!!

Comments and Suggestions are always welcomed!!!

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